June is the time for love.
And strong marriages come from couples who are willing to risk falling in love, willing to risk facing their disappointments and willing to resolve conflicts.
But somewhere in the back of your mind, during all of your June wedding preparations, you’ve probably been wondering how to keep the passion, excitement and attraction alive in your relationship after the honeymoon is over.
According to some Internet sources and counseling services, there are at least six ways to deepen your passion and keep your relationship thriving and flourishing after the honeymoon:
Consciously communicate what is most important to you — both in your relationship and your life. Schedule a time each day, even if it’s only 15 minutes, to turn off the TV, sit close and make eye contact with each other. Take turns talking about your desires and expectations.
Understand, embrace and learn from your differences. Talk about these differences and share things that are important to you. Remember to listen with an open heart and not judge. Turn your attention to appreciating one another’s gifts.
Leave all the stuff from previous relationships with those old relationships. Learn how to help each other heal emotional wounds. In other words, be a friend to each other.
Don’t run away when things get tough. Keep talking until you resolve your differences in an amicable way. Tell each other how you are feeling without finger-pointing.
Make conscious agreements with your partner. Take an inventory of what you want and be honest with each other. These agreements build trust in your relationship.
Treat each day as if it were your last together. Practice using loving words instead of critical ones with each other and express your gratitude for that person being in your life. Choose to love each other with thoughts, actions and words and you will see a positive difference in your relationship.
After all, nobody said that married life is easy. Some would even say that it is the toughest human arrangement ever conceived.
And like most things of value, marital happiness is earned, mostly through hard work and self-sacrifice.
Few would argue that there is value to giving more than you receive, that there is value in placing marriage above one's individual wants or wishes.
At the same time, it’s both wonderful and difficult to risk falling in love, and it’s also very hard to face the disappointments of our idealizations. However, moving through conflicts and finding resolution as a couple (and a clearer personal identity as an individual) is the gateway to real intimacy and happiness.
Perhaps the key is to create a respect for and celebration of differences-after all, differences are what attract us in the first place.
June is the time for love.
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“Missy’s here — we’re not going to win. Missy’s here…”
Learning she was a perceived threat from two women whispering at the starting line behind her, women she had never met from among the hopping, stretching, Lycra-clad crowd, had one effect on Missy Burleson — a smile spreading as far as her feet were about to sprint her.
Pastor Roger Pauley and his wife Marcia were — like so many other baby boomers — charged with the responsibility of making decisions for their aging parents. For the pastor’s father, death was sudden.
BAF approves community grants
Beckley Area Foundation Board of Directors has approved $160,737 to fund forty-four projects throughout Raleigh County between April 2014 and March 2015.
Carnegie Hall in Lewisburg unveils upcoming events
Carnegie Hall in Lewisburg has a variety of events planned for the spring and summer.
Singer named an Outstanding Young American
President Bill Clinton, Elvis Presley, Wayne Newton and General Chuck Yeager have one thing in common, they are all past recipients of the United States Jaycees Ten Outstanding Young Americans award. For over 75 years, the United States Junior Chamber (Jaycees) has recognized the 10 young men and women – under the age of 40 – who best exemplify the highest attributes of the nation’s emerging generation. The U.S. Jaycees is pleased to name West Virginia’s own Landau Eugene Murphy Jr. to the 2014 Ten Outstanding Young Americans who will be honored at the 76th annual black-tie awards ceremony – to be held June 28, 2014, at the BWI Airport Marriott Hotel in Baltimore, MD.
Alderson Main Street welcomes its new Americorps member
The members and friends of Alderson Main Street welcomed their new Americorps member, Lynda Howe, at its recent monthly meeting.
Tractor pull event coming to State Fairgrounds in May
The West Virginia Grand Nationals N.T.P.A. Championship pulling event debuts at the State Fair Event Center in Lewisburg Memorial Day weekend.
Djembes Drumming workshop to be held
The New River Community and Technical College Office of Workforce Education is sponsoring a Djembes Drumming workshop on Tuesdays for six weeks beginning April 29.
Learn basic sewing at NRCTC
The New River Community and Technical College Office of Workforce Education will offer a basic sewing class in Lewisburg in May.
GVT to showcase work of Genevieve Sowards Gillen
Greenbrier Valley Theatre is exhibiting the art and photography of Genevieve Sowards Gillen during April. Her pieces are on display in the theatre foyer: three pastel, four acrylic, and a number of photographs on stretch canvas.
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