The Register-Herald, Beckley, West Virginia

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May 11, 2014

Moms making men

Moms are awesome! Moms introduce us to the world. What an awesome job to be THE primary nurturer of a new person to the family, community and really the whole planet.   

In his book “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” educator, author and businessman Stephen Covey reminded us that we should begin something with the end in mind.

Mother-daughter banquets abound on Mother’s Day, as do father-son outings on Father’s Day. Yet, consider the importance of motherhood from a man’s perspective and the special relationship of mother to son.

Moms, realize the infant you hold will one day be a man. That boy who proudly swings that bat in tee-ball will one day be providing for a family. And that teenage boy will one day be a grandfather. As anyone who is older will tell you about five minutes into a conversation about parenthood: They grow up fast!

Back to Covey’s principle: What do you want that boy to be like when he is older? Start moving him in that direction. Here are a few guidelines mothers might want to include on their parental wish-lists:

 

R-E-S-P-E-C-T.  

It is my experience that men need respect as much as they need love. While Aretha Franklin popularized the song about respect, I find it interesting that a man was the author of that song.

Men crave respect. Moms make men strong by giving them a taste of what it means to be respected. As they get older they will be able to recognize a potentially disrespectful partner easily, if their mother gave them the respect they needed growing up.

 

Bond from day one.

The hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world, as the saying goes. Scientifically we know that nurturing from a mother begins in utero, literally from conception. As a child matures in the womb, he is already beginning that important bonding process with his mother.

Research tells us that trauma to the mother during pregnancy translates to the child. The best first step for your man’s health is taking care of yourself physically and mentally during your pregnancy.

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